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What Constitutes a "Lifestyle Change"?

  • by Bernice Hardwick
  • 15 Oct, 2018
I find it strange and interesting that the term "lifestyle change" has come to represent something positive and active, rather than something which happens to us. Look it up on the internet and what you find immediately are lots of tips and guidance on how to achieve it, how to improve yourself and your life. At the risk of being controversial, I would suggest that homelessness or death are pretty dramatic lifestyle changes, but I suppose the writers of the articles would suggest that it's better to focus on solutions rather than problems (not sure there's much we can do about death, but it may not be a problem, either), and that is generally sound counsel.
My biggest concern with most of the supposedly-helpful "10 ways to ..." type articles and books on mental well-being is the glib tone and glossing-over of the real issues, aggravating rather than alleviating. Eventually, depression can be a choice, but you have to understand it first - the triggers, that it is a choice, the reasons and so on. Sometimes, it's the choice because the alternatives are too horrendous, overwhelming, alien, scary to contemplate, not because they are unknown. It's amazing how many depressives are only too well aware of what they need to do to avoid depression, but choose not to for all kinds of reasons. That's where we need to start, by being more compassionate (and I recently read a book on compassion which lacked any compassion in its delivery!). Can you imagine how terrifying the thought of doing something social could be to somebody in a depression? Or how totally overpowering the thought of exercise to somebody who has been glued to the sofa for weeks? Let's find out why people are not following the guidelines, then there's a chance we can do something about it.

https://psychcentral.com/…/lifestyle-changes-as-…/23670.html


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